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How many people are running from one place to another without knowing where they are going or what they have gone to, and without ever evaluating whether they needed to rush or if they could have done the same at a different pace. Haste is not an added value. Nobody is a better professional or a better person because they go everywhere fast or because they express how stressed they are.
Have you calculated how much time you gain when you go full speed? Most of the time, going fast does not mean walking faster or thinking faster. It means being and feeling internally accelerated.
Imagine meeting someone you know who greets you while talking on your cell phone while looking at your watch, shaking hands and smiling to show you how happy you are. When he hangs up, he embraces him effusively, tells him that he is very busy, that he runs all day, that everything is bad and that he cannot wait any longer to take a vacation. You barely let him talk, he doesn't ask you how you are doing, he says goodbye saying to see when they are left and he runs off. Scenes like this are experienced every day on the streets of a big city.
Many people live accelerated and installed in prontomania, in the need to answer everything immediately as if there were no tomorrow. It gives the feeling that haste gives prestige because it indicates that he is busy, very busy, and that is interpreted as being a great professional. False. Speed can also be synonymous with poor time management, lack of concentration, forgetfulness and personal and professional imbalance. Many people would not leave their important matters in the hands of someone who does not have five minutes to smile, to ask how we are doing, to talk conversationally for a moment and transmit peace and calm.
The person who lives in a hurry does it also with stress and anxiety, they do not enjoy the moment because they are anticipating the future. He lets life go by because he does not observe what is happening in the present and does not listen to what people say to him because his head thinks at 200 revolutions. You are also more likely to have an accident because you jump limits to save time.
The rush becomes a lifestyle. In fact, many people don't know what to do with their free time when they have it. Being unemployed causes them discomfort, a feeling of loss of time, even a lack of self-esteem because… "How can it be that I am not doing something now, what does that say about me?" For these types of people, boredom is something unpleasant, empty and meaningless. That's why they keep running even though they don't even know where.
Enough! Stop, slow down, contemplate, look around, and take your foot off the gas. You have the right to choose the rhythm you want to print in your life, to have time for your leisure, to wander aimlessly just for the pleasure of doing it. Time is not something you should consume in large quantities and gush. Time is something to savor, even when you have an urgent report to deliver. Will the quality of that work be higher if you write it under stress? Find better solutions? Is it more creative? Is life better for you and do you enjoy it more? The answer to all these questions is a resounding no.
Doing hundreds of things and not enjoying them is like doing nothing. Calm people, those who optimize their time to work and enjoy life in every way, give good vibes and, more than one, envy. How do they do it?
What is important and what is not? It is a difficult question to which each one answers differently because it depends on a personal scale of values. For some it is family; for others, work or happiness itself. The answer doesn't matter because neither of them is good or bad. What is important is to be consistent and act according to what each one establishes as relevant. If you think family is the most important thing, but you dedicate all your time to work, you will be running to find a moment for your priority. Order your agenda according to your preferences, with common sense and responsibility.
Limits are placed on schedules
Establishing them orders us and speeds up the mind. Knowing that the work has to be finished at a specific time focuses attention on the activity. If that dimension does not exist, the brain disperses because it knows that it has all the time in the world to figure out what is at hand. Limits allow you to pay attention to what is important; without distractions that will require a new warm-up process to focus on the activity that is really your priority. Every time you break your concentration process, you slow down the task, and then the rush comes to finish it all. He sighs thinking that he does not arrive, he stays in the office longer than he would like, he feels guilty for not returning home earlier and runs again to recover what he lost by not managing his time well.
They say a magic word: NO
Helpful behavior cannot be turned into servile behavior. If you always put the wishes of others before your own, then you will not be able to manage your affairs. Your activities and relaxation are important. This situation leads to an unsatisfied life, in which the idea prevails that you have no space for yourself and that your activities are not important. Many people think that spending time is selfish, because these are times that you could invest in others. But it's not like that. Your psychological and physical well-being depends on your capacity for enjoyment.
Mobile, WhatsApp, work, email, everything that prevents them from enjoying other moments. One of the negative uses of technology is to make everything immediate. You are not obligated to answer all incoming information instantly. Most of them are not urgent. If they were, they would call you. It is you who have decided that you have to respond to everything in a hurry because you have caught this habit, because you have no patience or because you think that the person who writes you might be upset. Learn to delay, especially if you are currently doing another activity that requires your attention.
They use techniques that allow you to relax
Yoga, Pilates, sports, a hot bath, a long and relaxed phone call or a glass of wine by the fireplace. For these moments there is always a space. It is about dividing the hours so that obligations and leisure are balanced.
They do not seek perfection, they seek to be comfortable with their lives
There are people who seek to improve, grow and excel. And there are others who are obsessed with everything being perfect and controlled. Perfection does not exist, neither in technology, nor with our physique, nor in the dexterity or ability to develop a sport. You will waste a lot of time trying to make something perfect. It just has to be damn good, it doesn't need to be perfect. Moreover, very few people will be able to appreciate that level of excellence to which they have dedicated so many hours and that has prevented them from reaching the previous point: relaxing and disconnecting.
They are present, enjoy and observe what happens around them. They are not looking for what to do next, but rather are carried away by the moment. They spend time in the contemplative life. To enjoy the moment, you must be in the present, in the "this, here and now." Repeating these words to yourself from time to time will allow you to remember the importance of details, to attend to your moment instead of anticipating the future.
And remember: the seconds or minutes you gain by running do not make up for everything you lose in quality of life.